Tag Archives: career

Cellphone Distraction and Your Relationship

481463-xsmallSmartphones have enormous power. They take pictures, record video and sound, retrieve your email, even make phone calls and act as GPS devices. They can entertain you and deliver the latest news and weather. They can also wreck your car and your relationship if you are not careful.

People are attached to their cellphones. No one has to tell you that. But depending on the job, a cellphone can get you fired. But do you have to lose a spouse or relationship as well?

According to the website AllWomenStalk.com there are nine definite signs that a cellphone is ruining your relationship. Thes include;

  1. You only connect through your phone.
  2. You text through a date or meeting with friends.
  3. You miss important conversations
  4. You can’t handle normal interaction.
  5. You need your phone constantly.
  6. You become detached from people around you.
  7. Relationships end quickly.
  8. People keep repeating themselves.
  9. Friends start hangingout without you.

For black men and women it is extremely important that you learn to control the impulse or even addiction to constantly checking or using your cellphone. A major complaint of black dating couples is that the other person can’t put down the cellphone. Many relationships are finished before they start because of incessant cellphone usage.

But if you are in commited relationship or married you need to put your partner before your cellphone. There are ways to do this. Few people realize that a smartphone can really anger their partner if they feel it takes priority over them.  Stopping whatever you are doing to answer a call or text can be a very frustrating experience for the other person in your life. Not to mention create suspicion that something is amiss in the relationship.

Show your partner or spouse that they are first by doing the following; 

  • Greet your spouse or partner in the morning if you arise at the same time. Say good morning, exchange a little kiss and some plesantries. Ask him or her how they slept or about their dreams. Spend a few minutes cuddling. 
  • Declare a time at night when the cell phone is off until the next morning. And let the job know it! Spend your evening and last waking minutes with your partner.
  • Consider banning cell phones from the bedroom altogether. That means before, during and after sex!
  • Dinner and other meals should be a strict no electronics time. Talk to each other during your meals.

Don’t be sneaky when using your cellphone. Nothing creates more suspicion than when you get a call and leave the room with the phone. Or disappear into the bathroom or garage to talk. If the conversation is innocent why are you hiding? You better have a good reason like palnning a surprise vacation. Otherwise you will have some questions to answer.

Avoid hurting your partner’s feelings by clarifying your cellphone usage. Sometimes you can’t avoid a busy day at work and the job will follow you home. At those times you need to talk with your partner and let them know whats happening.  If something your partner says sets off an alrm in your head let them  know that’s why you’re taking your phone out of your pocket. A little communicationcan can prevent fights from starting and hurt feeling and smooth things over.

Another thing you can do is learn to listen. Listening is an active, not passive, task. People don’t always undersand you have to be prepared to listen. Remove distractions, like your cellphone. Be prepared to give feedback. A simple acknowledgment can go a long way. A nod of the head or eye contact lets the person know they are heard. A good suggestion is to cuddle on the couch or embrace for few minutes during a conversation. You may be abe to multi-task but you can only listen to one person at a time.

Take days off from you cellphone if you can. Declare Sundays cellphone free days. Try not to use the cellphone on weekend getaways or keep ther use to a minium on vacation.

Remember a smartphones is not an absolute threat to a relationship. You can use it to enhance your relationship as well. Try sending your partner sweet or even hot sexy text messages throughout the day. This is great way to let them know you’re thinking of them. But please don’t use the work issued cellphone for this! Or to really spice things up you can even play a little game with your smartphones. How about making a deal that whoever goes for the cellphone first owes their partner a sexual treat!

Text messaging can open your partner up for in-person conversations that wouldn’t have happened otherwise, especially when it comes to sex. If texting is the only way you say what you feel then go for it! Just make sure you work on your in person communication skills. 

Don’t let a cellphone destroy your life. Understand that a cellphone is a tool and not a crutch for communication. Bring your partner back into your life by moving that device aside.

Now you know.






Study: Internet-based Job Hunting Effective for African-Americans

Diverse Logo-Quark.qxd

Originally published November 7, 2013 at DiverseEducation.com

A new study has found that, with the Internet emerging as a credible resource for searching and applying for jobs, African-Americans have come to rely on online job search information sources more than any U.S. racial or ethnic group. In addition, African-Americans are more likely than average “to say the Internet was very important to landing a job,” even while their measures of digital skills and literacy are reported to be “modestly lower than the average.”

In the study, “Broadband and Jobs: African-Americans Rely Heavily on Mobile Access and Social Networking in Job Search,” these results and others lead the study’s publisher, the Washington-based Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies think tank, to conclude that “efforts to improve people’s digital literacy and skills are likely to improve their capacity to use the Internet effectively for job search.”

The study goes on to say that improving digital literacy and skills would generally benefit low-income individuals, those with lower levels of educational attainment, and those in social groups that have significantly lower than average digital skills and literacy scores.

“Broadband and Jobs” contends that, if policymakers and other stakeholders “do in fact help people increase their level of digital skills, [Americans] are going to get payoffs in terms of people’s engagement with those tools to solve important problems whether it’s job search, education, or health care,” said Dr. John Horrigan, the study author and senior research fellow at the Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies.

“We’re looking at how people, who do have an urgent need or an urgent problem to solve in their lives, go about solving it,” continued Horrigan. “In this case, it’s looking for work. And we find that people generally use the Internet and think it’s an important pathway to finding a job.”

The study reports that 50 percent of African-Americans said the Internet was very important to them in finding a job, a figure that significantly outpaces the 36 percent average for the entire sample. Smartphones proved an important part of the job search process for minorities with 47 percent of African-Americans and 36 percent of Latinos reporting that they had used their devices for job searches. Twenty-four percent of Whites indicated that they had used their smartphones for job searches.

“Broadband and Jobs” also notes that libraries have an important “role to play in providing access points for the Internet as well as digital skills and literacy training.”

The study found that, while 15 percent of all American adults had used the Internet at a public library within the previous year, 21 percent of African-Americans and 23 percent of Latinos had done so. Among poor Americans, or those with annual household income less than $15,000, 24 percent had used the Internet at a public library in the previous year.

“We found in the report that African-Americans and Latinos, especially African-Americans, over index on the activities we asked about when it comes to looking for a job using the Internet,” Horrigan explained, “which is to say they did those job search activities more often than other segments of the population.”

The study is based on an extensive survey of 1,600 Americans, including an oversample of African-Americans, conducted last May by the Joint Center Media and Technology Institute. The survey indicates that, although personal contacts remain the most important job search factor for Americans, nearly one-third of those who had recently been without work cited the Internet as the most important component in a fruitful job search.

“Digital literacy is the key issue to achieving equity in the future of the digital economy,” said Jason Llorenz, the director of innovation policy for the Latino Information Network at Rutgers University.

Along with Horrigan and Commissioner Mignon Clyburn of the Federal Communications Commission, Llorenz participated Wednesday in a Joint Center public forum that examined the “Broadband and Jobs” study. Llorenz told Diverse that the “Broadband and Jobs” study represents a critical inquiry into why digital literacy matters as a priority for participating in the nation’s evolving economy.

“The Internet really provides an opportunity to level the [economic] playing field,” he said.


Written By Ronald Roach

Senior Contributing Editor at Diverse Issues in Higher Education


Online Job Hunting Tips

canstockphoto9493896A job! It makes everything else in your life work. Without income everything else goes to hell pretty damn quick! African-American’s can attest to this more than any other Americans.

Unemployment in the black community is always, always, worse than other groups. According to the Washington Post black unemployment is sitting stubbornly at 11.4%, twice that of whites. This is a real travesty. My question is why?

According to Pew Research black unemployment has regularly been double that of other groups since 1954! In some areas of the country black unemployment has reached as much as four times that of whites.

I do not believe for a second this is all our fault. This country has a deep and persistent race problem.  It is a proven fact that employers will shy away from hiring you if your name is too black.

A report from Think Progress reveals that Americans prefer doing business with whites. I’m not surprised.

But regardless of the way the game is played we have to get out there and fight for our share of the pie. Looking for work is a job in itself. You have to be prepared and aware of how to look, where to look, and how to present your skills and abilities.

In the age of the Internet more and more jobs are being offered and sought online. So basic computer and Internet skills are more important than ever. As I have just shown you, as an African-American, you need to get real good at presenting yourself to a potential employer.  So how do we do this?

1) First of all create a website of your own as a step above a resume. You can do this in a single day using simple even free website hosting. You can post examples of your work and recruiters can read about your goals and obtain contact information.

2) Do a little research and get to know whats online about you. See what others and former employers know and say about you. This includes social media. Employers are big into looking into your Facebook and Twitter posts. Social media can help you or hurt you in your job search. And don’t be surprised if your potential employer asks for your social media password. Is that legal? Maybe. Be aware of what images and comments are out there. Also be aware of anybody with the same or similar name as yours in case there is some confusion.

3) Focus on what you want. Online job boards offer job seekers various settings and filters to help you refine your search and improve the accuracy and speed of results.  Narrow your job search by region, industry, years of experience, expected salary and sometimes by company name. And don’t over sell yourself or under sell your skills. Know what you can do, can’t do and willing to learn. It’s ok to reach higher but not too high.

4) Focus!  So rather than just applying for that sweet job you found online your best strategy may be to first figure out where you want to work. Who do you want to work for? Go after that company or industry. Many employer’s career pages will allow the job seeker to fill out candidate profiles describing their background, job interests, salary requirements and other preferences. Keep in mind that many companies have a candidate pool that is refreshed at regular intervals. If you submitted a resume last year it may no longer be in their system. The job you are looking for may not be open right now but that does not mean you can’t submit your resume. And re-submit or update it every six months or so. Many human resource managers will look at the most recent resumes first.

5) I did say focus right? Refine your search further by visiting your selected industry’s national or regional websites. Examine professional associations and trade groups. You may find jobs in your field that don’t appear on a national job board.  Employers are increasingly advertising jobs on these sites to find a bigger pool of qualified applicants.

6) Seek out recruiters. These people are professional and may charge you but they can help match your skills with jobs.  Check out searchfirm.com,  or onlinerecruitersdirectory.com. These recruiters can also help you polish your resume, reveal skills you were unaware of and even discover new markets for your talents.

7) Consider a video resume. Video resumes are a new and innovative way to stand out and get noticed.  This is intended only as a supplement to your standard resume and website. Consider using a video resume on your website. A good video resume permits you to exhibit your personality and interests that are difficult to highlight in a paper or electronic resume. 

8) Do your homework. When you want to know something you Google it right? So Google the exact job you are searching for. You may find resources you were not aware of.

9) Stay alert. Many online job sites offer features that allow the job seeker to sign up to receive e-mail job alerts that match your search criteria. You can also use an RSS (Really Simple Syndication) using a site like Feedly.com. 

10) Network, connect. Have you ever heard the cliche “It’s not what you know, but who you know?” Because of social media and sites like LinkedIn.com  job seekers have the ability to connect with people near and far.  You can connect with people in your field to find new opportunities or expand your network for a career change. And the key word is network.  Sites like LinkedIn are made up of millions of industry professionals allowing you to network with people you know and the people they know and so on and so on. But keep in mind that when you sign up for an online social networking site it is very public. Make use of any filters available. Once you put your information out there it can be difficult to take it back. 

Looking for work is hard. Being black and on the job market is even tougher. You have to be prepared, persistent and alert to opportunities when they arise. We know it ain’t gonna be easy and we know why. While you’re out there you need to make sure your game is tight.

Now you know.

 Top Ten Job Sites according to  AboutCareers.com

1) Careerbuilder.com

2) Dice.com

3) Glassdoor.com

4) Indeed.com

5) LinkedIn.com

6.) LinkUp.com

7) Monster.com

8) US.jobs


10) TweetMyJobs.com